Unleashing the Magic: Hugs, Kisses, and More. . .

Why does Disney’s “Magic Kingdom” is so attractive to children and adults alike?

Because it feels Magical!

Just like we like our relationship to feel. . .

I bet when you were dating you could hardly keep your hands off each other.  Any time you saw each other was a great opportunity for (at least) hugs and kisses.  It was Magical!

What about now?

Where has the Magic gone?

Most couples that seek my services for relationship coaching hardly touch each other anymore.  

They barely look up from their games or electronic gadgets, or from their work, when the other walks in or out.  

The magic is gone. . . How sad!

You can unleash the magic of intimacy in your relationship again if you go back to giving more attention to physical touch.

Hugs

The Huffington Post reports that a researcher at the Medical University of Vienna recently pointed out that hugging someone you care about can ease stress and anxiety, lower blood pressure, and even boost memory.  

Experts believe it all comes back to the hormone oxytocin.  A simple embrace seems to increase levels of the "love hormone," which is not only linked to social bonding but also to the feeling of joy.

You don’t have to wait for a special occasion. . .

You don’t have to wait until you are not angry or sad anymore. . .

You don’t have to wait until the other initiates a hug. . .

If you want more happiness and connection, hug more!

Cuddling

Call it an extended hug -- cuddling also releases the same stress-easing oxytocin that hugs do. But you may not have guessed that a little cuddle time can help you and your partner to also communicate better.  Non-verbal communication can be a very powerful way to say to your partner “I get you.  I know how you feel.”   

Kissing

Of course, kissing has also been shown to affect oxytocin and cortisol levels and just like hugging and cuddling, can reduce stress and produce bonding.  

Have you noticed how hard it is to continue to be mad if you are kissing?

Have you noticed that kissing throughout the day can enhance your sexual desire?

Have you noticed how a lingering kiss makes you feel good all over?

Don’t cheat yourself and your partner. . . Kiss more often!

Sex

In addition to relaxing and burning some calories, some time between the sheets can help you fight off germs (Hello, flu protection!).  

As long as your partner isn't already sick, a couple of sexy escapades a week can boost a particular antibody that fights off colds, according to a 1999 study.  

Sex may also promote better sleep, thanks to both, the relaxing effects of that oxytocin and an increase in a hormone called prolactin, which is normally higher during sleep.

And, of course, sex makes you feel more bonded, loving, and loved.

When you don’t make time for sex, your relationship becomes more and more distant, and then you feel less like having sex, which makes you feel even more distant. . . and so the “catch 22” keeps you going in circles on and on.

Taking hold of the magic

You see, hugs, kisses, and more are not only good for your health but are vital for increasing your joy.  One of my standard “prescriptions” for couples in distress is to make it a point to hug, kiss, and cuddle more.

To do it at least in the morning, as homecoming, and before going to sleep.  Better yet, make sure you have enough moments of joyful bonding contact during the day.

Your turn:  Take full advantage of the magic of loving touch! Today, make sure you share at least 5 moments of joyful bonding contact. You will see the difference it makes! 

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