How to optimize differences

I love fall! Every year I revel in the striking beauty that is autumn. We are just starting the season and I'm already anticipating what is to come: the glorious colors displaying nature’s color palette, enhanced by the sunlight. The deep reds, the vibrant oranges, the lively yellows, the array of greens, and the earthy browns formed a collage of colors showing a bountiful variety. Together they demonstrated the beauty of fall.

I started thinking that the palette of colors is what makes the change in seasons spectacular. It’s the combination of the colors that makes autumn beautiful.

What if the red said to the yellow, "I don't need you"...

what if the yellow said to the brown, "There is no place for you"...

what if the brown said to the green, "You're not necessary"?

We would have no fall colors!

You should keep this in mind. It applies to people too.

Are you as excited about the variety of personalities and preferences of the people around you?

Can you appreciate the differences, or do you see them only as a cause of friction and annoyance?

In a family, it’s the diversity of talents, gifts, personalities, and, yes. . . even colors, that creates a unique mixture.

Each person is part of the overall masterpiece.

The differences aren’t the problem. They are part of the amazing explosion of creativity.

The problem is our perception of the place differences play. 

Instead of being annoyed at your partner because he starts many projects and finishes few, appreciate his creativity and energy. Would you prefer a depressed guy who never even starts anything?

Instead of getting irritated at your honey's insistence on order and cleanliness, appreciate her investment in maintaining a pleasant and healthy environment.

One of you might talk more than the other or have answers faster. Instead of fighting about it, appreciate what each of you contributes to conversations and problem solving.

And so on. . . 

Remember. . .

You can choose to see differences as beautiful, as an opportunity to enrich your own mind.

Or you can refuse to even notice how variety can energize and bring the freshness of cooler air.

You can gather the flitting colorful ideas, or you might not wake up until the opportunity for change and growth has passed you in a swirl of falling leaves.

You might take advantage of the diversity of thought to strengthen your decision-making, or you might not wake up until all the leaves have hit the ground, and only useless dry ideas and old cliches survive.

 Do you know how to optimize the diversity you and your partner bring to your relationship? Can you take advantage of the creative energy of the swirling emotions that an interchange of diverse ideas brings?

I prefer to enjoy the wide variety of colors both in nature and in people! And you?

P.S.

I can help you learn how to communicate better and maximize the diversity and energy that dialogue can bring to your relationship. Book a totally free 30 min. Couples Strategy Session directly on my calendar to explore together how to positively use your diversity instead of letting it bring conflict and negativity.